It’s raining softly again this morning and I love that. It sounds so cool on the skylights in my living room. When the rain is coming down hard, it is so loud it drowns out the TV, but that’s cool too because it’s nice just to turn the TV off when that happens and just enjoy the rain. I’ve never been too crazy about TV.
I had wanted to have a TV-less house while Leah was growing up, but with the daycare and all, we did have one. It was used very sparingly, though, and I’m proud of that because the kids really had a good chunk of creative playtime, art time, and story time each day. We used to mix muffin batter together in the mornings, and they’d help me with some of the cooking for lunch. We’d set up makeshift “easels” in the back yard and the toddlers and older ones would paint freely without worrying about whether they were making a mess. We’d make playdough from salt and cornstarch, I believe it was, and color it with all the dyes I had from cake decorating. We had lots and lots of story time — I had a library of over 400 childrens’ books! Leah and I were so very blessed to have all her “daytime siblings” with us during her early years. We’re still in touch with several of the families, and it’s really, really nice. I still have so much of the kids’ artwork stored in various places. Always meant to frame and hang some of them…I’m always behind schedule on stuff like that. Most of the kids are in their 20’s now, and no artwork has been hung. Drat.
Well, as I drank my first cup of coffee this morning, I went online to look at statistics for survival for stage 4 epithelial ovarian cancer. What a way to entertain oneself, right?! 🙂 And it’s not good. I knew that, of course. Educating you now, if you need it. 5-year survival rates range from 18% down to 8%. That means only that number of women will live 5 years or more. Of course, there’s always the disclaimer that each cancer is unique, each patient is different, and no one can really predict how long anyone has.
I’m guessing at most, I have 2 years. At worst, maybe 6 months. So, I’m proud that I have been much more proactive with organizing and planning than I was with the kids’ artwork. I’ve already seen a lawyer and I have a will in place, a financial Power of Attorney (my sister Adrienne) and a medical Power of Attorney (my daughter Leah). They will make decisions on those things in the event I cannot. I have also gone to all my banks and various savings accounts and set up PODs. These are Payment on Death, and in effect name someone as a beneficiary. Leah will be the beneficiary for all of that stuff. Knowing that Leah will have a decent little pile of money when I’m gone is invaluable to me. We can’t count on her father for anything, that’s for sure, (bitter, anyone?), so it really puts my mind at ease that she will have a cushion if her financial situation were ever to get wonky. Not likely, since Leah is SO good with money and is much better situated at 24 than I ever was. But very, very reassuring nonetheless.
The only thing that matters to me is making sure Leah will be ok. And I know she will be. I’ve seen a strength and stability/groundedness in her this whole year that has both amazed and comforted me. She is an amazingly strong young woman who has already been through so much in her young life, and handled it all with maturity and grace. I’m so proud of her I could bust, and I owe so much to her aunts, who have truly shaped who she is more than I have.
Well, it’s stopped raining. Except on my face. 🙂 I guess it’s good for the eyeballs to regularly flush them out.
It’s good for the heart, too.
I love you all!
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